The music business can be cruel, blunt, and harsh. It’s a business and you cannot take the opinions of others personally. Whether it’s the way you sing, or the song you wrote, or how you play the piano, just because they say something negative “does not make it true”! If you read a review or hear a comment and it’s completely false let it go; don’t take it personally. Think of it as a review or comment for someone else. Next, if there’s any truth to the comment or review, learn from it, what needs to improve or change. Listen to the review or comment with an open mind and don’t be defensive. Every successful artist has critics along the way and has made mistakes. If there is something that needs to be worked on, use it as a learning tools to make you the best you can be.

Your words are powerful for good or bad. The words you tell yourself (self-talk in your mind) and what you say out loud are life changing words (positive or negative). Your words are so powerful you can change a life for good or destroy one. If you take someone’s words personally, that means you agree with them. If someone does not like your music, the way you singing or playing piano, it’s their emotional garbage or personal preference, not yours. If you accept it, then it becomes your trash!

If you make it a daily habit to NOT take things personally, you have peace! By doing this anger, jealousy, envy or sadness will disappear and you will be free! Freedom to create, grow and become the artist you want to be. I’ve had clients come to me and say, well I was told as a child that I can’t sing or I can’t play piano, only to find out that those statements were not true. So be good to yourself and don’t accept the garbage, keep your mind free of the negative words. Turn every negative situation or comment into a positive one. How do you do this? Change your perspective! Here is an example: You are going to sing in a show with other artists and you choose a song only to find out another artist chose the same song. You can choose to think they wanted my song, or they always have to have the better song. Here is a better perspective: I was not supposed to sing that song, I’m supposed to sing something else. There is a better song for me, to make my voice shine! They had no idea I wanted that song.

I’ve attached a video of Sophia Johnson singing “Use To Be Mine” and Sophia just dealt with the mental warfare as she played Elsa in her recent live stage musical performance for “Frozen.”


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